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Before You Hit the Nuclear D Button

by tcoates | Oct 10, 2019 | Podcasts

You can find Kongit here:

Show Notes:

[02:50] I welcome Kongit to the show and she shares who she is and the nature of her work.

[03:45] Kongit’s background and training which qualifies her for her work and who is her clientele?

[06:45] What is couple’s therapy in Kongit’s counseling center?

[10:50] Kongit sees individuals and couples, but she can’t see you as a couple if you come to her as an individual.

[13:07] She describes the biology behind a couples relationship.

[16:13] How relationship dynamics change when you have children.

[19:41] Be honest and clear with yourself and your partner on your vision and quality of relationship which you want.

[21:23] Relationships need clarification, skill building and cultivation to work.

[23:49] One person is usually a bit more emotionally evolved than the other partner.

[27:54] Once one partner becomes emotional, you are no longer problem-solving.

[28:31] Issues that are being presented with couples in crisis.

[30:12] Differences between not having relationship skills and not knowing there is a problem in the relationship.

[32:10] Time involved in therapy and how Kongit approaches how much time she spends with her clients.

[33:45] How race and background play a role in relationships.

[35:31] Can you see Kongit if you live outside of LA?

[36:39] Kongit gives her words of advice to couples who are thinking about divorce.

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Coaching Isn’t Just for Athletes

by tcoates | Sep 26, 2019 | Podcasts

You can find Kelly here:

Kelly on Facebook

Kelly on Instagram

Kelly on the Web

Show Notes:

[03:05] Who is Kelly and what does she do?

[04:01] Who does Kelly work with and what does her tribe look like?

[05:45] Kelly talks about her mastermind which is open several times a year.

[06:18] What are the benefits of a mastermind and why would someone want to be a part of this type of community?

[08:41] Kelly speaks about roadblocks and how they can make us move backwards.

[09:54] Kelly’s journey to how she arrived at being a health coach.

[11:31] When she realized she wanted to assist other women with achieving their goals.

[13:25] She wasn’t happy with work or life, she just worked for herself.

[15:45] Kelly decides to leave her second husband shortly after launching her business.

[17:01] Kelly offers tips on how to get yourself in a better mindset.

[17:52] Self-judgement and conflict within her own mind.

[21:08] When is it a ‘failure to stay?’

[22:23] How Kelly baby-stepped her way into her new business.

[23:24] Surround yourself with specific people to support you in your life.

[26:24] Looking back, is there anything Kelly would change about her life?

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The Power of Forgiveness

by tcoates | Sep 12, 2019 | Podcasts

You can find Regina here:

Regina Demeo

Regina Demeo on LinkedIn

Regina’s Facebook Page

Regina on Twitter

Bethesda Magazine

Show Notes:

[01:55] Today we are discussing the power of forgiveness.

[04:00] Regina shares her background as a divorce attorney.

[05:19] How Regina started talking about forgiveness in her role as a relationship expert.

[05:55] Regina speaks about the search for her father who she never knew.

[08:09] Her father disarmed her anger by telling her he was sorry for not being there for her.

[09:44] Regina explains what forgiveness is and what forgiveness is not.

[11:09] Does vulnerability play a role in forgiveness?

[12:00] Regina explains the fallout of being consumed by anger.

[12:43] Key components of forgiveness – what we should be mindful about.

[14:01] Many of Regina’s family members kept her father a secret.

[15:13] Topics which Regina spoke about with her therapist for the eight years she was working through her family issues.

[16:22] Three key steps to work through when moving through the process of forgiveness.

[19:03] Intent is important when you talk to the people who have hurt you.

[22:04] Options which are available and finding a workable solution for you to do.

[22:50] The opposite of love is not hate, it’s apathy.

[24:50] Regina shares examples and practices of how she was able to release her negativity.

[27:39] Advice Regina shares about what you can do when you are dealing with the struggles of ongoing forgiveness.

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